Working mums and stay-at-home mums get a tough time. You’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t.
A good work-life balance is, for me, very important as I’ve always been career driven but it’s one of the biggest challenges I currently face.
My head says work but my heart says family.
While I turn up to the nursery run all dressed for work looking glamorous, organised and ready for the day. There is often a lot going on behind the scenes.
I’m very lucky I do a job that allows me to work part time but the constant struggle of sick kids is hard. They can’t to in for 48 hours if they’ve had an upset stomach, they cant go in if they have a high temperature and they constantly pick up bugs whilst they’re at nursery.
Again this week Dilys has been off for 2 days with a stomach bug, luckily my husband is around so he has taken a few days off but then that obviously transfers the pressure on to him. She was fine in herself and still running around the house pretending to be a ghost when I rang home to check how she was doing.
The reality of a working mum life
I have to get everything ready the night before, outfits for all 3 of us and all of our bags packed and ready. With 3 sets of shoes and coats lined up by the front door.
I have to set my alarm for 6am to get ready before I wake them up at 6.45am and get them out of their comfortable warm beds to quickly get them fed and out of the door in 50 mins.
The days are long for us both, they go to nursery from 8am until 5.45pm. Then, I run late for the nursery pick up too many times and ask myself if it’s all worth it? It’s hard to accept that this is the way it is for a while.
Once I collect the kids, we get home after 6pm and we are all so tired, it’s time for a very late tea and bedtime routines before we start the whole thing again the next day.
I get annoyed as previous generations talk about us and call us ‘millennials’ but they never had the guilt or to make the effort in creating a harmonious work and life balance with 2 under 2 like I did.
I’m very lucky as my colleagues and managers are so supportive but I know many woman are not as fortunate.
We are definitely committed
Working mothers are no less committed to their job. In fact, I think we are pretty damn committed. We want to be professional, get our work done to a standard we are happy with, and bring up our babies.
Is that too much to ask for?